Fifty Shades of.....

Me...El Natural...

The World's Current Obsession..for most women anyway.

Me feeling silly as my Mom does this mini photo shoot

Me & My Best Friend''s idea of a Perfect Summer Day....

Hello Loves! Happy Sunday..how is everyone's weekend? So I wanted to warn that this blog is going to be a little bit more for umm...adults. So here we go. I have truly been contemplating  writing about the new obsession on practically every woman's mind that I have spoken to..the erotic book, "Fifty Shades of Grey," by author E L James. It is a tantalizing love story between the ever so appealing sexy twenty-something rich entrepreneur Christian Grey & the ever so simple & a bit naive Anastasia Steele. This book takes us on a roller coaster of their love that is erotic, emotional, & serves as addictive like a drug to it's readers. It got me thinking though why is it so appealing to so many women..it couldn't just be the sex could it? Okay maybe it could..LOL. Here's the thing about us women, we are taught to not talk about sex, or if we enjoy it & talk about it freely, we are looked down upon unlike men. Let's face it women are sexual beings & there is nothing wrong with that. Sex is a beautiful thing, a pleasure like no other, & can make you learn to know & love your own body in many ways. As a single 29 year old, I realize that it is a different era than our mothers who married young & maybe never had more than one partner. But as a women of this day & age, most of us did not stay with the person we lost our virginity too..Thank God! LOL! We have had different partners, not all being from a monogamous relationship either. There is no shame in that & I know there is a double standard that if men sleep with different partners, they are "Pimps," yet if a women does, she is considered a "Slut." I could not disagree more, but what I will say is that our bodies are like temples & should only be shared with whom deserves it. If you play it safe & are with someone you are truly comfortable with to go to that next level, what's the shame in that? Yet I do feel one should be particular with whom they choose because not "just anybody" deserves such a personal part of us. And to be quite honest I feel that sex is always better when your in love with someone. When you have sex with someone you love, there is no other way to feel closer to each other than feeling as one. It is more than feeling wanted though, a partner should know your body inside & out, yet also make you feel beautiful & comfortable in your own skin. If we don't go through the heartaches, good lovers, bad lovers, & different relationships, then how will we get closer to knowing what we truly want in the end? I think also aside from the sex, this book is deeper than it gets credit for. In truth, witnessing Christian's strong love for Ana is something I think us women all long for. It isn't just about that he's amazing in bed, wealthy, a unselfish lover with movie star good looks, well those things don't hurt either..LOL. But it's the way he loves her so deeply by accepting her in every way, flaws & all. He fights for her, will do anything to make her happy, & is just truly raw in his vunerable state of love when he is in her presence. He is not perfect though with all his baggage, emotional that is. We watch as Ana tries to love him, figure him out, & in a way fix him with her love. He is as she says, her "Fifty shades of f**ked up." She sees that he is broken from his past & has not known pure unconditional love, so she hopes in a way she can break the spell. Can't we all relate? I had my fifty once. He swept me off my feet, would send me 100 roses a week, took me places I'd never been, & made me feel like the most loved & beautiful woman in the whole world. I had never been so in love with someone, & I haven't been in love since. I started to see the cracks in his emotional stability, & after a long off & on roller coaster I decided to get off the ride. I am not looking for someone like my fifty, but I will not settle for anything other than an amazing connection, physically, spiritually, & emotionally. In reality too, we've all been there. Falling in love with someone we thought we could fix, or save emotionally as Ana has tried to do over & over in "Fifty Shades." Christian is fifty shades of broken, yet aren't we all in some way? Or at least a piece of us? That's the beauty in love, it teaches you to show the other person the beauty that they cannot see in themselves. As Ana is doing just that as she shows Christian unconditional love, he does the same for her by letting her realize & see that she is worthy of his love. So what do we all get from this trio of erotic seductive novels..I'd say "Hope." Hope to find someone to love us that deeply, someone to teach us to love & accept our bodies, even if we consider them flawed in someway, someone to help us realize we are worthy of being loved that much, & well hopefully someone to give us mind blowing sex as well.